What is the most important do you think to share with a young child (age 5-10)?
1. Being well organized
2. Being honest
3. Being helpful to others
其次，being organized能减轻他们以后生活和学习的压力。其实，现在很多学生都有拖延症，就是因为不会安排自己的时间，导致拖到最后自己压力很大，这甚至到high-level education还会发生，所以being organized是一种管理生活和学习的能力，能够考虑好每件事情要做的时间点，知道在正确时间做正确的事情，这样的话不仅可以按时完成自己的学习或者工作任务，还可以让自己的生活压力减缓很多。
另外，being honest虽然也很重要，但其实在今后的生活中，一个人是很难保持百分之百诚实的，因为有一些场合是需要说谎的，比如说有些善意的谎言，而且在某些情况下，诚实反而会冒犯到他人，比如直接指出他人的缺陷或者短处，所以说孩子应该要在自己的生活和社交过程中去体会如何在不冒犯他人的情况下去保持诚实，这是在他们小时候可能无法理解的事情，这是需要时间去磨练和积累的。当然，being helpful也是一个很重要的品质，但同样地，帮助他人也要看情况，不能一味的帮助他们，这样的话有时候使得他人对自己产生过度的依赖，反而对他们的能力产生负面效果。而这些也是孩子在小时候难以学习的道理。
1. traditional virtue 传统道德
2. absolute truth 完全的事实
3. Confrontation 对抗
4. Blotch 弄脏
6. in the long run 长期
7. betrayal 背叛
8. overwhelm 胜过
9. derive from 从...获得
The traditional virtue of honesty in all situations is increasingly doubted by many in today’s world. Many believe that being honest is not always the best policy when dealing with people and shall not be shared with children. Be that as it may, this essay will explore the importance of being honest in relationships between people.
Undeniably, Sharing values of being honest exposes children to the cruel world. We all understand that often the truth is offending and may not be a very nice thing to both hear or say. Even, many would agree that if a company is to tell the absolute truth about it’s products, no one would be interested in even having a look at the products. The same logic also applies to human relationships. if your friend had worn a newly purchased dress on her birthday and energetically asked you if it was a worthy buy, would you freely express your opinion that you had never seen a dress as the one she’s currently wearing? and spoil her birthday? unarguably, hiding(entirely or particularly) the truth in some situations can be quite handy indeed. confrontations and disputes can seemingly be avoided.
However, there is always the risk factor of the truth emerging sooner or later when telling an untruth. the basic trust in any relationships friends,parents and children will be blotched, and would have an impact on the future relationship between both parties. the story of the “the boy who cried wolf” fully illustrates the consequences of telling lies. no one will believe you when you’re telling the truth. Therefore, after presenting the value of honesty to children, they will avoid falling in the dilemma.
In addition, another “bad factor” of telling untruths is that you have absolutely no control over when the truth will emerge. untruths breed pain in both parties: tears when the truth is uncovered after a period of time; in the long run, it seems that hiding the truth is not beneficial to either party. In contrast, delivering the value of being honest to children, children will have no worries of fearing the truth to be exposed. Therefore, the life will be easier than those choosing to cover up the secrets.
Everyone hates betrayal. even if it is the trend to occasionally hide the truth in relationships, it is strongly recommended that not to follow that trend as the risk and the consequences of the truth unfolded overwhelms the minimal advantages one can derive from not telling the truth. After all, it is understood that relationships are founded on “trust” which goes hand in hand with “truth”. Indeed honesty is the most important consideration in any relationship between people. As a result, this value should be shared greatly.(word count: 472)